Saturday, March 22, 2008

We made it!

The first night at the farm, that is. Oh, what a time we had yesterday afternoon. I got off work at 6 after chomping at the bit all afternoon because I wanted to go out there, relax on our deck and sip a drink and watch the deer. Instead, at about 8 p.m. or so, I was bathing the back end of our big yellow cat while Sam was holding her front end, trying to avoid her teeth. Seems old yellow cat was none too happy with the trip out there and made her displeasure known by leaving a little gift for me in her carrier then spraying all over herself or something, which left a most unpleasant aroma around her. I have been in the animal business for quite some time but never saw what I say yesterday. Male cats spray, you know. Female cats shake their tails but normally don't spray. Well, when we pulled her out of that carrier, her whole tail and back end was wet!! It was disgusting. So we got that dirty deed done and then I fixed us scrambled eggs while still wearing my scrubs from work and listened to the cats walk around and growl and hiss for the rest of the night. Then we felt so sorry for them and we let them sleep with us last night so they wouldn't be afraid. Not the best idea. Yellow cat is huge and got right between us and wouldn't budge when I turned over and tried to bring the covers with me. Her weight held them down. Then white kitty, beautiful little thing, heard a house fly and that kept her entertained for a good part of the night. So today, Sam and I are grainy-eyed and my poor Sam is bone tired. We are at the old house now and will take a small load out and then I will insist he rest for the remainder of the day. I've got boxes, clothes, household items strewed from one end of that house to the other but we'll do what we can and just take it slow. We're not as young as we used to be and there was a time when I would not have stopped until every single thing was put away and pictures were hung on the walls. Not now. We're lucky to have a bar of soap and clean towel for bathing! It'll get done and until then, we will enjoy the quiet and solitude with our little pets.

I will let you know when I won't be blogging for a time. We won't have Internet access out there until the first or second week of April so after this week, I may be gone for a while. I'll miss you all during that time. Until then, I'll be around and I pray you all have a blessed Easter.

Leeann

Thursday, March 20, 2008

Slow moving

And I mean literally. We had hoped to have so much more done by today but poor Sam had to work late every night this week. Seems a couple of co-workers called in sick every day so he was very, very busy and worked 2 or 3 hours over each night. However, his boss gave him Monday off as well as tomorrow so he'll have four days off in a row, for which I am so grateful. Knowing Sam, he'll have everything moved in by tomorrow night! We are both so anxious to be out there and really wanted to spend Easter out there...we'll see. I went out today and took a load and put a new shower curtain up in one of the bathrooms and just piddled. I sat in my rocking chair in the middle of the living room and looked out the front windows while eating a salad for lunch. I had a good country station on the radio and just thoroughly enjoyed that moment.

Yesterday, one of the clients at our clinic brought in a tiny, cream colored poodle and she was identical to my Snow Pea, except my Snow Pea was gray. This little dog just captivated my attention and I thought that if I could find another one like that, I would love to have her because she reminded me so much of my little girl dog. Oh, how I miss her. One of the first orders of business once we're moved is to lay her to rest on the hill behind our house. I thought about her today and wished she was with me, sniffing the floors in our new house and running out in the huge front yard. She would have loved it out there and I wish I could have shared this with her...does that sound silly? I hope not. I'm really not a nut. I know she was a dog, but she was also my tiny friend and I believe she considered me a mother figure of sorts, seeing how she was born in my bedroom laundry basket and started sleeping along side me when she was only 4 weeks old.

I look forward to having breakfast in the morning with a dear friend. She's 87 years old and a delight and marvel. She is so precious to us and I look forward to spending as much time with her as I possibly can. She also happens to be our landlady and the neighbor of son's in-laws. She is sad that we're moving but totally understands our need and desire to have a home of our own. This neighborhood is deteriorating and I believe she will sell this little house we've lived in as well as the one she owns next door. Miss C is one of the most intelligent, kind hearted humans we've ever had the pleasure to know and we clicked from the start. We are each other's confidants and I'm honored to call her my friend.

I will close for now and bid you all a good night. I will keep writing until the last day when we will be without Internet for a short time. Until next time, sleep tight and don't let the bed bugs bite.

Leeann

Sunday, March 16, 2008

At the end of the day

Hi, ladies -

I haven't posted anything in a while. Sam and I have been busy moving things to the new place and we're getting closer and closer to being moved. Our goal is to have everything done by next Sat. so we can spend the night. We'll see how long our muscles last us! Sam has had the brunt of it and has worked very, very hard. He's moved so many big, heavy things by himself and we are kinda hoping that between the two of us, we might make the last trip of the biggest things by ourselves. I can lift the end of a couch, loveseat, and desk and also help with the bed. If we could do it without getting help from anyone, that would be great.

We were out there all afternoon yesterday and unpacked boxes. There was a box of what I thought was my mother's china that had been packed away for 15 years and I was most anxious to open it. Well, the dishes on top were the cups to her set, half of which were broken. The rest of it was glassware and for the life of me, I can't recall the pattern. My mom used to call it her crystal but to my thinking, it's too heavy to be crystal. It's clear and has that raised diamond pattern on it. Do y'all know what it is? I will try to figure out how to put a picture on here and show you. I was disappointed but maybe there is another box of her china around that I just haven't seen yet. I did find the china that my mother in law gave us years ago and hasn't been used in about 5 years. I told Sam I want to find a hutch for the dining room and display her china, as it is very delicate and pretty, but I want to use it daily. Why have it if we can't enjoy it? I hand wash my dishes anyway and it would look so pretty on my table and would make me think of her every time we sat down to a meal.

Sam and I were to dog sit for a friend of mine, K. I had never taken care of this little dog as my friend has only had her a few months. She was abused and K has been telling me she would be very shy. Well, she refused to come out of her kennel and even snapped at me when I reached in for her. I took as much time as I could, talking gently to her but she has had a hard life and is so skittish and she wasn't going to come out of there so I decided to leave her in peace. K was understanding and felt bad that we traveled that distance to care for her - she's about 30 min. from us. But we tried and maybe if I'm around her more and more, she'll get used to me.

I talked to youngest son last night and was happy, as always, to have that time with him. He is such a joy and is very easy to talk to. I am incredibly blessed to have the close relationship that I do with him. He told me that he wants to move up here so bad because he wants to be near us and be somewhere that is so pretty. I think he will be coming up shortly and may bring his girl with him and let her see the area. She is close to her family and hasn't traveled far from Texas at all so she is curious to see what it's like here and I think, son may be hoping that she'll love it enough to consider a move. It's very hard for them as he wants to be close to his family and she, hers. Selfishly, I want them here as I've lived away from him for 3 years now and miss him more all the time. We have a very easy relationship and I say that because my relationship with married son isn't quite as easy. We have no problems between us and we love each other deeply but since he has been in training, he sometimes appears to get in a "preachy" mode with his family. He just isn't always himself these days....he's more serious and being surrounded by religious scholars much of the time has subtly changed him. Add that to his being married and a father and naturally, his priorities have changed and his responsibilites are so great that I think he is overwhelmed at times. I just want my boy back sometimes - I miss him. This feeling will pass, I know, and although life changes and he has taken up the mantle of manhood, he is still that wonderful young man that I am very proud of and am grateful to God that I got to be his mom.

I am off to fix Sam some supper and then to rest for the evening. I pray happy weeks for all of you.

Wednesday, March 12, 2008

Wednesday thoughts

It's early morning and my favorite time of day. I truly love the promise of a new day. I love the way it smells outside and the sounds of the birds. That's one of the things I look forward to the most when we move to our little farm - not having to go to work my first day off and just going outside and being....reveling in God's glory and creation.

I want to thank you ladies for giving me encouragement with regard to my son's in-laws. It really does help knowing that others face the same or similar struggles. I don't know what the future holds but Sam and I have decided that we'll take the higher road and try very hard to behave in a Christian manner, no matter what. Our desire is to glorify God but sometimes it's hard to not do or say what would come naturally to us because we're sinners. All this to say that I ask for prayer that our two families can be harmonious for the sake of our married children and our granddaughters.

The weather here in northern TN. is so beautiful. It's in the 60's and we're starting to see trees bud out. I am very excited to see what pops up at our new place. We were told that somewhere on our property is an apple tree or two which tickles me to no end! We have lots to do out there and it will be an adventure.

I dreamed about my little dog Snow Pea the other night. I had gone outside and she was in the yard next door, limping and disoriented. I couldn't believe what I was seeing and ran to pick her up. Her little eyes were barely open and somehow I knew that she had been traveling a long way to find me and when I held her close to me, she clung to me and wouldn't let me put her down. Strangely, I didn't wake up crying but sadness was my companion for most of the day yesterday. I'm so grateful that I had her.

I hope you ladies have blessed days. I'm off to work now and look forward to my day off tomorrow.

Leeann

Sunday, March 9, 2008

my weekend

I will forewarn you that I've had 3 glasses of wine to drink. Does that give you an indication of my weekend?

First of all, the baby girls are beautiful and healthy and it was pure joy to hold them and love on them. They looked like tiny angels in their christening gowns and were very well behaved when they got baptized this morning.

Now, here is the deal. Does anyone out there have issues with their child's in-laws? I sure hope so because I need some help with this particular area of my life. Here is a little bit of background: son's father-in-law is a doctor. Wife is an atypical doctor's wife. She isn't snobbish but basically doesn't pay much attention to me or Sam unless there is a crowd of people around. It's a public show of affection and appears to us to be very artificial. Well, the father-in-law has been very ill with the flu and we didnt' think he would be able to make it for the baptism. He did and we were glad for that because it would have been a disappointment for him to have missed that. Afterwards, we all met at son's house for lunch. Father-in-law, who has a BAD cough, is asked by his wife to carve the ham. The man is coughing into his hands which are then placed on said ham and he starts sawing away at this ham, all the while coughing and/or licking his fingers between slices. Sam notices and calls me aside to warn me not to eat said ham. I agree.

The in-laws are a large group. Daughter-in-law has 3 siblings and her grandparents are still living and they were all there today. There was only me, Sam, and our dear friend who is close to both sides of the family and she sort of acts like a buffer between the two. In-laws keep to themselves and entertain each other with stories and jokes and we are excluded. I got a huge lump in my throat at one point because I started wondering about my granddaughters and thought - "what if they want to be around that side of the family more than us because they are more boisterous and still have teenage kids at home to entertain them"? See where I'm going with this? I realize I am showing you my vulnerabilities here but I have to be honest. I feel jealous of so many things....the other grandma's sewing abilities, their affluence and ability to buy anything anyone in their family desires, etc. You may wonder why I feel so strongly about all of this. Well, I'll tell you. One of daughter-in-law's sisters made a comment about a month ago in front of Sam and me to her sister, our DIL. She said, "Please don't teach the girls to speak with a Southern accent or a twang." It really hurt my feelings and I wish I had spoken up then but I didn't. Their kids were born in Tennessee but the parents are from Ohio and don't have southern accents nor do any of the kids. I truly believe that they equate a southern accent with ignorance. Anyway, the other thing is that this morning, one of these sisters was overheard saying about my Sam - "He's wearing the same tie he wore to wedding". Now this was our son's wedding to their sister which was over a year ago. I was thinking..."how do you remember and why do you care?" It just shows that there is an underlying animosity there and for the life of me, I don't know where it came from. Sam and I are easy to get along with and had a sincere desire to be close to this family but they basically shun us. I don't say anything to our son because I don't want him to be caught in the middle but it's very hurtful.

I'm sorry to unload but that is what's weighing on my mind tonight. I would appreciate any feedback on this and especially if any of you share similar experiences.

I hope you have a restful night and I thank you for listening to me whine yet once again.

Leeann

Friday, March 7, 2008

Friday night

Hi, ladies -

Sam and I just got back from our new place. We took a few boxes out there and will continue to chip away at it until everything is moved. It's so much fun to think about what all I want to do out there. I'm also constantly aware that every thing I take out of a box won't have to go back in a box to move elsewhere, Lord willing. We hope this is our permanent home until we die. That's sobering but comforting at the same time. I told him the other night that we'll remember this time while we're still relatively young and healthy as we are picking up heavy boxes and furnishings and moving around with ease. One day, we'll look at one another and notice that we are moving slower through those rooms and with a degree of difficulty as we age. I pray that is so and that God lets us have a long life together. By the way, there was a big difference in the weather out there than from where we are now. It's pretty mild here...about 50...with no wind. Now, our new place is up higher in the mountains about 20 miles from here. Well, when we got out of our car, the wind was blowing hard and it was about 10 degrees cooler. I hope it stays like that during the summer months. I love it.

I think everything is ready for our trip to see the grandbabies tomorrow. I made baked beans and green beans and some sweet tea to contribute to our lunch and others will bring ham, potatoes, sweet potato casserole, and my son's mother-in-law will be bringing something called Frog Eye Salad. Have y'all heard of that? I never had before and I had some last year at a family gathering. It's got this tiny round pasta that you cook and then add fruit to it and whipped cream/sour cream dressing, I think, and serve it cold. It was very, very good.

I hope you all have a blessed weekend and I'll see you back here Sunday.

Leeann

Thursday, March 6, 2008

My foot hurts

Okay, a little whining. My left foot hurts. I think I have tendonitis or something because the inside of my ankle swells a little after I've been walking or standing on it for a long time. Okay, I'm through.

It's been a lovely day off for me. I went to the phone co. and got signed up for service at our new place and the customer service rep. was none other than our new neighbor. And she and her husband are the only neighbors we can see from our place! She was very nice and friendly and when I sat down, she said that she and her co-workers had been talking about me. I guess I looked surprised and she said, "well, when you called to get information, the receptionist knew you were moving to the property next to mine and said you sounded very nice on the phone"! I thought that was very kind and I love the fact that it's a small community and everyone knows each other and looks out for each other. I know there is a down side to that, too, but Sam and I are pretty private people and we always figure if someone wants to gossip about us, they'll have to make stuff up. At any rate, I think we're going to like it out there. Oh, she also introduced to me to another woman that lives on our road and they like to walk when the weather is warm and said they would invite me to join them sometimes. They are both close to my age and it seems like we might have a lot in common.

I am gonna go put my foot up and ice it a little to see if that helps. I will get to a doctor when we get settled and see what can be done...I think I need to rest it more than I do but it's hard when a person works long hours like I do sometimes.

Have a happy Thursday, y'all!

Leeann

Tuesday, March 4, 2008

Weird weather

Good evening, all. I wonder how many of you have had weird weather today? It started out very warm this morning when I left for work and that in itself was strange. I'm used to bundling up on my way to work and it was downright balmy. Then as the day progressed, we had heavy rains then sunshine then heavy rains again. About quitting time, the sky turned that greenish/tornado-y color that just about makes me hyperventilate! It's been relatively calm since I've been home but we are under a tornado/thunderstorm watch for about 2 more hours. It's rare to have a tornado up in these mountains, thank goodness, but winds can be very damaging, too.

I had a pretty good day at work. As the weather warms, we get busier and busier at the vet clinic. I am seeing puppies with new eyes these days because I know we'll get another one in the near future. I have mixed emotions about this because I miss Snow Pea so very, very much and I want to give myself enough time to properly grieve for her because otherwise, I will constantly be comparing her to a new puppy and that isn't fair to that new addition to our family. I believe Sam and I will both know when it's time. For now, I deal with missing her and am so grateful that God gave her to us. Sidenote: a client called today (she actually called several times) to talk to me about her new pup. She had to have her 4 year old dog put to sleep last week because she had cancer and I know it was very hard on this woman. Well, she and her husband went to the pound and got a new pup and although she had a few questions for me, she mostly wanted to tell me how much she missed her dog. Now I know as well as the next person how losing a pet hurts and while I was so sorry for her loss, she was quite persistent in her phone calls. At one point, I commiserated with her and shared with her the loss of my little dog and she completely ignored me and just kept on talking about her deceased dog and the new puppy, etc. It hurt my feelings and it made me mad. Sigh.

Well, enough whining for one night. I hope and pray you are all safe and sound this stormy night. By the way, thank you all again for visiting me and for your kind words of encouragement and friendship. My time is very limited on here some evenings and while I intend to visit each and every one of you, it may take a few days. Please know that I look forward to getting to know you and visiting with you.

May God richly bless you,
Leeann

Monday, March 3, 2008

All I can say is Wow!

It's a real testimony to the influence of one sweet woman named Karen that she was able to persuade you lovely ladies to come visit me. She is a sweetheart and a true friend. Karen, I love you and thank you. Y'all have no idea how reading your comments has blessed me and encouraged me to keep on going. Thank you so much.

I hope everyone had a good Monday. Mine was pretty typical - the usual drama of my co-workers and the busy-ness of a new week. I work in a veterinary hospital and have been in this line of work for 20 years. I managed a practice in Texas for many years but after our move to Tennessee, I decided to slow down and rid myself of the responsibility. So I work the front desk and enjoy just greeting folks and admiring their four legged children. Someone asked me if it was terribly hard to be there the day after I lost my Snow Pea, and I replied that it really wasn't because I knew my grief was understood there better than anywhere else I could be.

We are gearing up for next weekend when we get to see our grandbabies and witness their baptism. I'm sure it will be kinda chaotic with so many family members in my son and daughter-in-law's house and truth be told, I think they are stressing about it. We won't all converge on them at one time so we can all have time with the children but not overwhelm mom and dad. Bless their hearts - they often times don't know if they're coming or going but they are doing a great job. I'm so proud of them.

I forgot to tell y'all that last week, our youngest son had a wreck. He was in a company truck and a young couple pulled out in front of him and he didn't have time to stop. The girl jumped out, went into a corner store and bought a lighter, then took off on foot. Apparently, she was high on something and may have had a warrant out for her arrest. The guy didn't have insurance and no job. He did get a ticket. My son said he didn't know how that girl could get out and walk off because he hit her side of the truck they were in. Maybe she was like a ragdoll if she was -ahem- not sober, so it didn't hurt her. I'm just so grateful our boy wasn't hurt. He did let his girl take him to the e.r. to check him out and thankfully, he was okay. Talk about scaring the mess out of me. You just never stop worrying about your children, no matter how old they are.

I pray you all have a good night's rest tonight. Thank you for coming by to see me.

Sunday, March 2, 2008

Long time gone

I didn't mean to be gone so long. But you know, aside from the everyday things of life that have kept me occupied, I'm not happy with my blog. I found myself going in a direction that I didn't want to and even made a comment about changing that, but it didn't happen. I have been very discouraged because aside from one very loyal reader/friend, I get no comments. I don't have the bells and whistles on here like most of you talented ladies out there and I dearly love to visit your sites. I just wanted a forum where other women could share things with me and I haven't established that here at all. It's no one's fault but my own and I'm not sure how I want to remedy that. I may stop altogether or start another one or just work on this one. Perhaps I've given up too quickly?

Well, I will share my news with anyone that is interested. First of all, Sam and I have bought our little farm and couldn't be more excited. We've begun taking things out there and we'll be having one big box burning by the end of the move! I never want to see another moving box/roll of packing tape again. This little farm is so good for our souls. It's so quiet that it is sometimes deafening. We have stood outside in the twilight and the only sounds we heard were cows on the hill next to us chewing grass. We can see the outlines of headstones across the way on a little hill from us and at night, some of them have glowing crosses that is beautiful but creepy. I can't wait for our sons to see those...it will delight them. (boys are always boys, right?)

Next weekend, we get to see our beautiful baby granddaughters as they will be baptized. It's been too long. There has been so much flu running rampant in our area that we cancelled a trip last week to see them for fear of taking that bug to them and I would die before I made those babies sick. It will be a sweet time next weekend and an emotional one for this grandma.

I went to the eye dr. last week and learned that the constant blurriness in one of my eyes is due to a cataract. After getting over the shock of hearing that term, I learned that people as young as 40 can get them. (I'm early 50's) The dr. said that although I was young, it wasn't unheard of and having Lasik surgery would not help at this stage. I'm terribly near-sighted and was hoping he would tell me I am a good candidate. But the good news is that insurance pays for cataract surgery and I should have almost 20/20 vision in that eye when all is said and done. I still have a hard time saying "cataract"! Oh, it's a joy to get old. Seriously, I have a lot to be grateful for and wouldn't be young again for anything.

I hope you all have a blessed Sunday and will bear with me as I decide what direction to take here.

Leeann

p.s. To my friend, Karen....thank you for your faithfulness and friendship.